I read the following article in a local newsletter celebrating Valentine’s Day. It touched my heart and made me reflect on my own attitudes. I am presenting it here ‘as-is’ for all the coaches out there.
A theology professor was teaching about proverbs. He asked his students, “Why do we shout in anger?” “Why do people shout at each other when they are angry?”
The students thought for a while. One of them said, “Because we lose our calm, we shout.” “Why shout when the other person is just next to you?” asked the professor. “Isn’t it possible to speak to the person with a soft voice? Why do you shout at a person when you are angry?”
The students gave some other answers; and none satisfied the professor. Finally he explained, “When two people are angry at each other, their hearts psychologically distance themselves. To cover the distance, they must shout to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the stronger they will shout to hear each other through the great distance.”
Then the professor further explained, “What happens when two people really love each other?” “They don’t shout at each other; they talk softly. Because their hearts are psychologically very close; the distance between them is very small. When they love each other even more, they do not have to speak, only whisper. The closer they love, the less they speak and more they understand each other.” He concluded.
So, next time you shout at a loved one, know that you are creating a distance between your heart and that person’s heart.
Hope you all felt loved during this Valentine’s Day celebration. Whisper!
Kam Gupta, Past President, ICF-C. E-mail: Citkam@gmail.com
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